Emotional Sex is Too Much Work - Who Does She Think She Is?!

speaksexy @ November 21, 2007 # 21 Comments

“All of them?! You’d have sex with all of them?! In other words, you’d be a slut.”

And so began an hour and a half’s worth of debating the morality of multiple sex partners, the sanctity of sex between those “in love,” what exactly makes a “slut,” the “grossness” of having sex with 100 men at the same time, the connection between pride, self-esteem, and sex - and finally - the issue of what makes emotional sex different from physical sex…

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“As Long As Your Vagina Looks Good…”

speaksexy @ November 7, 2007 # 27 Comments

And if you think he quickly saw the error of his ways, apologized, and said something “nice,” think again. After my horrified laughing fit subsided, he had the audacity to confirm my worst fears by pointing out:

“What do you expect? I’m a man! That’s really all sex is to us you know.”

This time, I couldn’t stop myself from landing on the floor! What could I say to that? I was speechless. So I started to think instead. It didn’t take me long to connect some of the more obvious dots. For example, when we watch porn together…

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Why Doesn’t My Wife Want to Have Sex with Me Anymore?

speaksexy @ November 2, 2007 # 22 Comments

When women lose interest in having sex with the men they supposedly love and adore, the reasons are often as individual and as varied as the couple themselves. From hidden animosity toward their partners to natural hormonal fluctuations, men are often left scratching their heads and wondering why the lusty sex kitten of before now refuses even the slightest of their well-intended sexual advances…

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Sex So Good You See Stars?! All About Erotic Asphyxiation

speaksexy @ October 14, 2007 # 3 Comments

Like everything, there are varying degrees of erotic asphyxiation. In fact many people naturally use breath play to increase the intensity of their orgasms without even realizing it. Have you ever noticed yourself or your lover holding your/their breath seconds before orgasm? Or maybe after your orgasms you feel the need to take in a huge breath of air just to “catch yourself”?
Well those are both very small indicators that you’ve likely unwittingly learned to deprive yourself of small amounts of oxygen just before orgasming…

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“Fetish, Fetish” - What the Hell’s a Fetish?

speaksexy @ October 7, 2007 # 7 Comments

We hear this word thrown around all the time. It typically conjures up images of leather, latex, and thigh-high boots being adoringly worshiped by a chain-clad submissive. But how accurate are these images? What does it really mean to have a fetish, and perhaps more importantly, is having a fetish unhealthy?

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Sex-Tech Backlash? Longing for the Good Old Days of Skin-On-Skin

speaksexy @ October 4, 2007 # One Comment

As technology continues to aggressively permeate every aspect our modern-day Western lives, including our closely held sexual expressions, could a sex-tech backlash be just around the corner?

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Dirty Talking Porn - Why are Women Always “Sluts,” “Bitches,” or “Whores”?

speaksexy @ October 2, 2007 # 8 Comments

People, women included, who really like porn enjoy it for its down-and-dirty raunchiness. There’s not much in today’s politically correct world that you can get away with, so porn is one thing that fills our deep need to feel like we are “breaking the law…”

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She’s Wet, But is She Turned-On?

speaksexy @ October 1, 2007 # 6 Comments

Many men in long-term committed relationships believe that a wet-woman is a horny woman, and interpret her lubricated-self as a green light to begin sexual activity. Sure, she will probably go along with it to please her partner, but that does not mean she really feels involved in the act. Even more surprising is that it’s possible for many women to have orgasms WITHOUT ever feeling turned-on! That’s why women report higher…

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“Cum On Me Now!”

speaksexy @ September 29, 2007 # 11 Comments

Despite the strong feminist arguments against cum-shots, there are many people who claim cuming on their lover’s various body parts, or having their lover cum on them, has nothing to do with culture, sociology, or gender power struggles - it’s just hot! What do you think?

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Masturbating to your lover’s voice - the high-tech way

speaksexy @ September 27, 2007 # 4 Comments

One of the most exciting parts of having sex is hearing your partner moan, sigh, growl, or talk “dirty” during those few moments of uninhibited abandon. Now wouldn’t it be nice to hear those vibrant and delicious sounds while you were masturbating? By combing a few high-tech gadgets and adding a little creativity, I’ve come up with a way for you to not only hear your lover’s voice - but to feel it!

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