Sometimes you just have to repeat yourself. Here’s one of our older posts that is still a favorite.
But First, a Little Story…
I remember the first time a man ever asked me to shave my vagina. I was in ninth grade, he was in tenth. We were innocently watching a movie together in his room when one thing led to another and before I knew it his sneaky fingers were down my pants. We had an exhilarating fingering session, the threat of being caught “red-handed” by a supervisory adult adding to the heat of the moment.
Then we heard it. His mother calling us to dinner. The hand was immediately gone and our clothes were hurriedly straightened. After a few deep breaths to wash the tell-tale color from our cheeks, we headed for the dining room. Dinner. Silly chatting. Time to go home.
Just a quick little post today.
I’ve been looking around a bit to find someone new, so of course I went to our site and started to read some emails I’ve gotten. So good ones, some that didn’t catch my attention and some are downright strange. Anyhow, I’ve been part of this crazy world for quite some time now and one thing always has been a huge turn off for me.
Prefer Not To Say as the answer to most if not all the description given in a profile.
I’ve not written as much about my experiences with adult online dating as I’ve wanted to and although I wrote my first experience, I’ve not revealed much since. When I first started writing about it, I thought it would be fun to share what I’ve learned, and even some of the mistakes that I’ve made. Now I’m have second thoughts. Do people really want to know the (sometimes) slutty details or would it be better just to find interesting and amusing stories to tell you from the headlines?
No. At least not according to several several articles that I recently read. Apparently the new normal is that most young adults (and younger) do not consider this having sex. I understand the basic difference but I’m still fascinated by the fact.
I really don’t have the answers. I’m sorry. Maybe it’s more of a reflection….
How to be safe on adult dating sites, there’s a lot more to say on this but I’ve been a little bit on the crazy busy side so I’ll just post a couple of quick points.
I never put my face pic on my profile. Sometimes I don’t even send it to them in private email. If they don’t like what they see when if/when we meet, then no harm done.
I do not give my real name to anyone. (a variation is ok)
I do not give my real birthday to anyone. (what difference does it make? It’s not like he’s going to buy you presents. Okay, some did)
I do not give my real address to anyone.
I never tell anyone where I work, just a vague answer as to what I do.
There’s a lot of ways that people can track you down with the just the smallest bit of information, so be careful. I’ll tell you about the stalker and the restraining order another time.
One of the biggest vanilla dating sites online did a survey recently asking their members what they were looking for and the results surprised a lot of people. On the top on the list was teeth. Yes, teeth! Now I’m not sure if they mean that they have teeth, that they take care of their teeth, or that they have a great smile… but whatever it is, I’m sure dentists around the world are rejoicing at the news.
So this is my first ever experience meeting someone from an “adult dating site”. Ah, not to be confused with all those ‘meet the man of your dreams’ sites, this one was pretty specific about it being quite sexually open. When I found that site, totally by accident, I started a profile just for fun (I know I probably already wrote that before) but I found it fascinating, intriguing, jaw dropping and incredibly interesting and really wanted to see what kind of response I got.
I don’t think they make those books anymore, do they? So I guess my title should have been different, but I’ll leave it at that just for fun.
Adult dating site. Wow. When I first signed up on an adult dating site, I was stunned by what I read and even more by what I saw!! So this is what I’ve been missing???
I just read an article by a very popular ‘vanilla’ magazine that spoke about Porn being part of a healthy marriage. Wow, the firestorm that created! So it got me thinking about why so many women are so threatened by the fact their men might want to watch porn.