Sex When You Don’t Feel So Sexy

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Sex When You Don’t Feel So Sexy

Does this make you hot?

Wake up at 6:30, make coffee, hurry the kids to school, a quick kiss on the cheek, work all day, get home, make dinner, argue over math homework, pay bills, clean up after everyone, put the kids to bed, wash dishes, wash face, think about plucking your eyebrows, look at your love handles and crawl in bed and just pass out. Sexy? Not really. Its true – day-to-day life is exhausting and doesn’t leave room for much, let alone sex. My inner sex kitten is hiding and it’s time to let her out.

 

 

When sex feels like work, nobody wins. I have to force myself into doing a few things to turn it around.

You tell yourself “so what”… There’s more to life than sex. But when it comes to a happy relationship, sex is a kind of a big deal. It’s what separates lovers from friends. So get your sexy back. You owe it to yourself and to your relationship. Here are some ways to get pussycat meowing again.

What turns you on? There’s no shame in it. What body part, what do you love to touch, what excites you when you see it?

When did you feel sexy? Was it when you had fewer responsibilities? No kids? The job you have now? Think about an actual time you felt really sexy. What can you learn from the past? What does it tell you? Is it time for a little exercise, some you time, just the two of you? Relive the past in different ways.

What do you like about your partner? Go over the image of his smile, how he makes you laugh, that part of his body you love, the way he smells, and the way he looks at you.

Ask him to tell you what it is he likes that you do. What excites him about you, the way you touch him, what you do with your tongue?  Lower the lights and lock the door!

Talk about a hot memory. Remember that one time..When you … and then I … that was hot.

Write a sexy letter. Write it like you would a love letter. Write down all your little turn ons, remind him of some of the dirty little things he’s done to you, the different places and positions. Read it to him…

Try something new. How surprising that we are willing to check out new things outside of our relationships, but not so willing to explore in it. You are more then friends, you are LOVERS…act like it. Something brought you two together and you deserve to take advantage of that connection. Try something new. Make it sweaty, make it dirty, do it like you mean it. Gosh even just a quickie in the morning before the kids wake up. That works, too.

Believe me when I tell you, a little blow job before work never hurt anyone!!

 

 

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