Is Homosexuality Still An Issue? Is Love?

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What? The world isn’t flat? Well guess what I heard over the weekend. The Moon is NOT made of cheese NOR is there such a thing as Santa Claus apparently.

So it amazes me when people are surprised to hear the belief or opinion that homosexual love is natural. That it’s not some “scourge of society, rotting our fabric from within”. What’s wrong with letting people simply “be”? I’m not sure if you’ve looked around lately but socially excepted routs of partnering aren’t doing very well themselves.

I’ve been in a few relationships that lamed out sexually.  One of them was a long-term relationship. All she wanted was continual and ongoing penetration. That’s it. No kink, no creativity, no zest.
Talk to older couples and they’ll say “sex wanes but a good partner will be far more valuable in your later years”. But I must disagree. Because if the sex and intimacy sucks NOW what are the chances you’ll even want to talk to them in your old age?
Sex, for some, is a way of love’s expression. For some, sex is THE BEST way to feel inside. The BEST way to show love. The BEST way of spiritual and physical being. We aren’t “addicts” because we love sex. We’re healthy. Just as healthy as those who “don’t need it more than once every 2 weeks”.
In the relationship I’m currently in now, they have become distant and sex is rare. This comes from their belief that “The Honeymoon Phase” is over and now sex isn’t that important. What kind of “Bait & Switch” tactic is that?
As a result my skin feels uncomfortable from the lack of touch. As if it crawls and itches just to feel something. Anything.

 

For as long as I choose to be in this relationship I consign myself to this reality and to the reality that their opinion may not ever change. In the “old days” people would just suck it up and be miserable until they die. But I think each following generation is supposed to be more aware, more enlightened and less closed-minded. Aren’t these the basics of evolving?

Otherwise why did we ever stop burning witches or sending women away into caves during their periods? I knew a guy who had a religious conflict with sex. He was a very sexual man who was constantly at odds with his faith and his body.

And I would watch him be happy expressing his body in a healthy, loving way and then become deeply depressed for it. He felt guilt as a result of his actions conflicting with his beliefs as well as for the following weeks of repentance after having told his religious leader . (It’s like telling on yourself for touching yourself.) But six months or so later he’d do it again.

 

The problem with rules are that they are mainly designed for controlling people. And I feel strongly that in order for a soul/person to be happy it/they must be expressed. Not just in faith but in physicality. Look at human history when we’d “box” the human spirit either individually or en mass. It shouldn’t be done. A few rules are good as guidelines but too many suppresses and I don’t think we’ve reached that point of homeostasis yet.

I’ve had a few partners both long term as well as short term and one of the many things I’ve learned is this:  Sex is empty, cold and devoid of the potential for spiritual growth without love and intimate connection propelling it. But I also know that so very long ago, the exact origins & details possibly lost in antiquity, doctrine concerning sexuality was a societal form of control. You control someone’s sex, you control them. The Catholic Church picked up on that trick a long time ago. (Poor Ireland was only JUST recently “given permission” to use condoms.)

My spiritual/sexual litmus test goes like this: When I have sex with or make love to this person, do I feel closer to the innocent need to give love? Am I giddy inside to be so connected to him/her? Do I feel that through this act my soul soars or diminishes? When we part, am I more fulfilled inside or do I feel as if they have taken something away from me that now aches?

Sex and sexual expressions are, I think, the only human and natural impulse to receive the most control and suppression (possible repression?) in the history of humankind. Just thinking of it makes me physically/emotionally and spiritually sad inside. Do I think people should throw sex around like currency?

Never in a million years. It’s something that should be shared with like minds. It should be shared with people who give love, trust, connection, intimacy, patience and understanding tolerance.  I fear, at this time in human history and development, sex is still a criminal act unless done within the confines of imperfect dictation and guidelines. Like a flower growing stunted in a single plant encasement. You see the vibrant colors. You see the wish to bloom and grow as it presses against the inside of the glass and you feel sad for it. We should be free to love who we wish in the manner we wish to provided they feel the same. Love should be multiplied, not divided or subtracted.

 

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