Sex in Your Sleep?

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Sex in Your Sleep?

Don’t automatically assume we’re talking about all of you. Wet dreams don’t count. And for the unfortunate majority of you it’s difficult to get sex when you’re awake!

somnophilia, sleep sex, carpe nocturna

That whole “No Sex for Two Weeks” post made me wonder…If people are so tired at the end of the day that they’d rather sleep than have sex…

How many of you would consider compromising with your hornier-than-thou partner for sex while you sleep?

To be fair, the sleeping partner in heterosexual relationships would, in most cases, be the woman. So let’s rephrase the question a bit:

Women: Would you allow your lover to “take advantage” of your luscious and tempting yet passed-out-from-exhaustion form? (Sure you might wake up at a few choice moments…But you get the point – No vigorous activity on your end -Just passive enjoyment or full-out sleep.)

Men: Would you feel right having sex with a motionless, warm body? Could you get into that whole “I’m using her for my own pleasure” mindset, or does there HAVE to be more involvement on her end (emotionally, physically, etc.)?

I can see both parties really getting into this sort of thing IF they have rather active imaginations…For example, he might like the idea of “forcing” her “unwilling” body to do things – much like taking advantage of her while she’s drunk, etc. She might feel extra loved by his attentions without feeling the pressure of needing to “respond” as she might while fully awake and engaged.

Turning to the darker side of things, if she has any hidden rape fantasies tucked away, this could be a perfect opportunity to mentally explore the murkier corners of her desires in a very safe and controlled environment.

Really, there are lots of perspectives that can be aptly applied to the sleep-sex situation to make it a fun and bonding experience. Of course, I wouldn’t suggest springing this on your partner in the middle of the night haphazardly! That certainly wouldn’t go over well…but try talking about the possibility beforehand, and next time the opportunity arises…take advantage of it – and her ;) – and see what happens. Maybe you love it, maybe you think it’s boring, maybe you’re too tired to even remember it!

Regardless of the outcome, at least you tried to make time for each other – and that in itself is good enough for me.

7 Comments

  1. ok, so she falls asleep. whats the big deal? in my view that is a big deal as she would not be responding to me or my touch. that is very important to me. if she were to fall asleep then i am not doing my job for her or myself. it would be like masterbating with a little more body movement.

    just my view.
    dave

    • I know what you mean Dave. As lovers we feel like we’re not doing “our jobs” unless we’re giving them screaming, moaning orgasms. But I think this taps into the part of our minds that enjoy getting away with something even as it’s with someone we love and know. And I know for a fact it’s a turn on for some women to wake up being taken. It makes us feel as if we were so desirable to you, you couldn’t control yourself and had to have us.

  2. My ex used to wake me up at 3am when she had a craving, i didn’t complain tho, that said the next day at work was much more enjoyable lol

  3. I’d give it a go!! I wouldn’t mind if he let me know he might try it (just as a pre-warning) – I feel horniest sometimes when I am half asleep anyway ;-)

  4. @ Dave – I can totally see where you are coming from. In fact, I know of at least one other man who feels exactly like you do. It’s impossible for him to stay excited if his woman is not responding like he needs her to. That makes you a very caring & considerate lover. :)

    @ Consolidation – LOL, I bet her “cravings” made you feel awfully sexy…Just you lying there turned her on! hehe.

    @ Vuxenspel – Good for you! I agree there’s something about being half-dozed that heightens the sensations. Maybe it’s just because we’re mor relaxed! (Kinda like when you’ve had a drink or two – if you drink).

    Thanks for the great comments! Keep ‘em cumming!

  5. No way! When I have sex it last all night long. There is no way I could have sex with someone just laying there haly asleep. No thanks I can wait!

  6. Odd that this subject is being brought up. I apparently have an ability to sleep sex. In that my penis has no need for me to be awake to be fully functional. I did not become aware of this until my first wife mounted me, was enjoying herself ans suddenly realised that i was still asleep. A bit shaken apparently she hollered and shook me till i awoke. Pointing out the situation, she was still mounted, she asked why I did not tell her of this ability. Needless I was as perplexed as she.
    So being prudent I questioned my urologist at that time and he advised me that he had read about similar experiences and concluded that in general it was nothing to be concerned with as far as my health.
    The bottom line is that even to this day if tired to exhaustion, I can and will sleep while my friends satisfy themselves; all in all I’d say it’s a win/win for all.

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