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One of the most misunderstood and mystifying aspects of female sexuality is the phenomenon commonly referred to as “squirting.” Female ejaculation, the officially recognized term for this behavior, is still in its medical infancy. Most of the research on female ejaculation was conducted in a flurry of studies in the early 1980s. Since then, not much has been published about it, though it continues to gain a steady fetishistic following within certain porn communities.
Recently Rae, a blogger herself, asked me if I could expound upon some of the misconceptions surrounding “squirters.”
“I’m actually curious about those porn videos one can access…well, pretty much anywhere, that show these women staying very true to the term “squirt” and whether that is really real. I do NOT do that, it’s more of a small waterfall/gush rather than spraying down my sheets and the walls of my bedroom.
Since I’m fairly new to this whole female ejaculation thing, I was just curious if there are different “levels” of squirting, or if the professionals really have the right of it and it’s like that from the get go. I don’t put a great deal of faith in professional porn actually representing the average sexual experience for the most part, but I’m just curious.” ~Rae~
There are a lot of questions wrapped up in there, so I’ll do my best to break them down.
What Exactly is Female Ejaculation?
Female ejaculation is marked by an expulsion of cloudy white or clear fluid from the urethra at the moment of orgasm. Despite what most people believe, the fluid does not come from within the vagina.
How Much Fluid Has to be Ejaculated to be Considered a “Squirter”?
There is very little consensus on this issue because it seems some women only “squirt” between 1 – 5 mls of liquid while others expel much more (Whipple, 2002). If you experience any expulsion of liquid during orgasm, it’s safe to consider yourself a “squirter.” Because of this it’s reasonable to assume that many women are “squirters” and don’t know it, since the amount of liquid could be relatively small and may go completely unnoticed. Have you ever been “very wet” after an orgasm? Then you are probably a squirter.
Do Women Really “Squirt” Across the Room, Like in Porn Movies?
Yes, some women do – but my best guess is that they are more the exception than the rule. No doubt porn movies exaggerate the “squirting” factor, much like they exaggerate almost everything about sex – But isn’t that exactly why we love them? There are, however, well documented cases of women who do ejaculate that dramatically.
Another possibility is that what is being “squirted” is not female ejaculate at all, but intravaginal secretions – ie what makes women normally wet. For example,
“Sally’s problem started when she masturbated with a vibrator and, at orgasm, ‘‘a lot of white stuff shot right across the kitchen floor’’. She was 14 years old at the time. Whilst it is not possible to be certain about the nature of this white substance nor its origin, it is most likely to have been intravaginal fluid mixed with desquamated cells. Kinsey et al. (1953) noted that ‘‘muscular contractions of the vagina following orgasm may squeeze out some of the genital secretions, and in a few cases eject them with some force’’. Since this experience Sally had held back from experiencing orgasm or avoided sex altogether for fear of ‘‘peeing the bed’’. (Riley et al., 2005, 220)
In other words, during a powerful orgasm the muscle contractions within the vagina can be strong enough to force a woman’s normal “juices” out – perhaps even across the room. Have you ever experienced “forcing” your partner’s penis out during an orgasm? That’s exactly what this is talking about.
Where Does Female Ejaculate Come From?
Again, this is still being debated, but most researchers believe it is produced by the Skene’s paraurethral glands because female ejaculate contains many of the same components that are typically found in male ejaculate, some of which is produced by the male prostate. In fact, some scientists argue that the female Skene’s glands should be renamed to the female prostate because it appears to be a much smaller version of the male prostate. Furthermore, just like the male prostate, the female Skene’s glands empty into the urethra, not the vulva as was originally thought (Whipple, 2002).
What’s the Connection Between “Squirting” and the G-Spot?
Female ejaculation only happens when the G-spot on the front wall of the vagina is stimulated, either through penile penetration or the use of a sex toy. It does not happen with clitoral stimulation alone. Women report feeling a “ball” grow behind their G-spot, which disappears at orgasm. It’s theorized that this “ball” is actually the Skene’s glands filling with ejaculatory fluid that is then expelled at orgasm. If this is true, this finding could explain why women enjoy having this spot, their G-spot, stimulated during intercourse. (Much like men enjoy prostate stimulation).
Can Women Learn to Become “Squirters”?
Honestly, I don’t know. None of the official research suggests that this is possible, since it tends to occur spontaneously. There are some unscientific manuals, books, and instructional videos that claim to be able to teach women how to “squirt”, but I can’t personally vouch for their effectiveness.
Do “Squirters” Have Better Orgasms?
Much of the desire to learn to ejaculate stems from the belief that women who do ejaculate experience more intense orgasms than women who don’t. Because the overall enjoyment of an orgasmic experience is so subjective, it’s very hard to know whether this is true or not. I will say that for many women G-spot stimulation, especially in combination with clitoral stimulation, leads to more powerful orgasms than with clitoral stimulation alone. Also, some women (around 30%) can have an orgasm via G-spot stimulation without needing clitoral stimulation at all. Does that necessarily mean “squirters” have better orgasms? I’m not sure, but go ahead and try – you’ll probably have fun either way!
Want More Information About Female Ejaculation?
- Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot, Not Your Mother’s Orgasm Book
- The Amazing G-Spot and Female Ejaculation DVD
- Female Ejaculation for Couples DVD
- Divine Nectar – A Guide to Female Ejaculation
- G-Spot Confessions – Ejaculating Women Speak DVD
Riley, Alan. Riley, Elizabeth. Gibbin, Jane. (May, 2005). “Sexual desire inhibited by urethral expulsions: Two female cases with different aetiology.” Sexual and Relationship Therapy. Vol 20, No. 2. 215-223.
Whipple, Beverly. (2002). “The Human Female Prostate: From Vestigial Skene’s Paraurethral Glands and Ducts to Woman’s Functional Prostate.” Archives of Sexual Behavior. Vol 31. Issue 5. 457.