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One of the most misunderstood and mystifying aspects of female sexuality is the phenomenon commonly referred to as “squirting.” Female ejaculation, the officially recognized term for this behavior, is still in its medical infancy. Most of the research on female ejaculation was conducted in a flurry of studies in the early 1980s. Since then, not much has been published about it, though it continues to gain a steady fetishistic following within certain porn communities.
Recently Rae, a blogger herself, asked me if I could expound upon some of the misconceptions surrounding “squirters.”
“I’m actually curious about those porn videos one can access…well, pretty much anywhere, that show these women staying very true to the term “squirt” and whether that is really real. I do NOT do that, it’s more of a small waterfall/gush rather than spraying down my sheets and the walls of my bedroom.
Since I’m fairly new to this whole female ejaculation thing, I was just curious if there are different “levels” of squirting, or if the professionals really have the right of it and it’s like that from the get go. I don’t put a great deal of faith in professional porn actually representing the average sexual experience for the most part, but I’m just curious.” ~Rae~
There are a lot of questions wrapped up in there, so I’ll do my best to break them down.
What Exactly is Female Ejaculation?
Female ejaculation is marked by an expulsion of cloudy white or clear fluid from the urethra at the moment of orgasm. Despite what most people believe, the fluid does not come from within the vagina.
How Much Fluid Has to be Ejaculated to be Considered a “Squirter”?
There is very little consensus on this issue because it seems some women only “squirt” between 1 - 5 mls of liquid while others expel much more (Whipple, 2002). If you experience any expulsion of liquid during orgasm, it’s safe to consider yourself a “squirter.” Because of this it’s reasonable to assume that many women are “squirters” and don’t know it, since the amount of liquid could be relatively small and may go completely unnoticed. Have you ever been “very wet” after an orgasm? Then you are probably a squirter.
Do Women Really “Squirt” Across the Room, Like in Porn Movies?
Yes, some women do - but my best guess is that they are more the exception than the rule. No doubt porn movies exaggerate the “squirting” factor, much like they exaggerate almost everything about sex - But isn’t that exactly why we love them? There are, however, well documented cases of women who do ejaculate that dramatically.
Another possibility is that what is being “squirted” is not female ejaculate at all, but intravaginal secretions - ie what makes women normally wet. For example,
“Sally’s problem started when she masturbated with a vibrator and, at orgasm, ‘‘a lot of white stuff shot right across the kitchen floor’’. She was 14 years old at the time. Whilst it is not possible to be certain about the nature of this white substance nor its origin, it is most likely to have been intravaginal fluid mixed with desquamated cells. Kinsey et al. (1953) noted that ‘‘muscular contractions of the vagina following orgasm may squeeze out some of the genital secretions, and in a few cases eject them with some force’’. Since this experience Sally had held back from experiencing orgasm or avoided sex altogether for fear of ‘‘peeing the bed’’. (Riley et al., 2005, 220)
In other words, during a powerful orgasm the muscle contractions within the vagina can be strong enough to force a woman’s normal “juices” out - perhaps even across the room. Have you ever experienced “forcing” your partner’s penis out during an orgasm? That’s exactly what this is talking about.
Where Does Female Ejaculate Come From?
Again, this is still being debated, but most researchers believe it is produced by the Skene’s paraurethral glands because female ejaculate contains many of the same components that are typically found in male ejaculate, some of which is produced by the male prostate. In fact, some scientists argue that the female Skene’s glands should be renamed to the female prostate because it appears to be a much smaller version of the male prostate. Furthermore, just like the male prostate, the female Skene’s glands empty into the urethra, not the vulva as was originally thought (Whipple, 2002).
What’s the Connection Between “Squirting” and the G-Spot?
Female ejaculation only happens when the G-spot on the front wall of the vagina is stimulated, either through penile penetration or the use of a sex toy. It does not happen with clitoral stimulation alone. Women report feeling a “ball” grow behind their G-spot, which disappears at orgasm. It’s theorized that this “ball” is actually the Skene’s glands filling with ejaculatory fluid that is then expelled at orgasm. If this is true, this finding could explain why women enjoy having this spot, their G-spot, stimulated during intercourse. (Much like men enjoy prostate stimulation).
Can Women Learn to Become “Squirters”?
Honestly, I don’t know. None of the official research suggests that this is possible, since it tends to occur spontaneously. There are some unscientific manuals, books, and instructional videos that claim to be able to teach women how to “squirt”, but I can’t personally vouch for their effectiveness.
Do “Squirters” Have Better Orgasms?
Much of the desire to learn to ejaculate stems from the belief that women who do ejaculate experience more intense orgasms than women who don’t. Because the overall enjoyment of an orgasmic experience is so subjective, it’s very hard to know whether this is true or not. I will say that for many women G-spot stimulation, especially in combination with clitoral stimulation, leads to more powerful orgasms than with clitoral stimulation alone. Also, some women (around 30%) can have an orgasm via G-spot stimulation without needing clitoral stimulation at all. Does that necessarily mean “squirters” have better orgasms? I’m not sure, but go ahead and try - you’ll probably have fun either way!
Want More Information About Female Ejaculation?
- Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot, Not Your Mother’s Orgasm Book
- The Amazing G-Spot and Female Ejaculation DVD
- Female Ejaculation for Couples DVD
- Divine Nectar - A Guide to Female Ejaculation
- G-Spot Confessions - Ejaculating Women Speak DVD
References:
Riley, Alan. Riley, Elizabeth. Gibbin, Jane. (May, 2005). “Sexual desire inhibited by urethral expulsions: Two female cases with different aetiology.” Sexual and Relationship Therapy. Vol 20, No. 2. 215-223.
Whipple, Beverly. (2002). “The Human Female Prostate: From Vestigial Skene’s Paraurethral Glands and Ducts to Woman’s Functional Prostate.” Archives of Sexual Behavior. Vol 31. Issue 5. 457.
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speaksexy @ December 8, 2007
So I have a question. You write that female ejaculation only happens when the g-spot is stimulated either by a penis or by a sex toy. If I understood this correctly, I must fall in the exception category because I can ejaculate by stimulating my clit. Hence, why would generalize by saying that one can only ejaculate through penile stimulation or through sex toys?
Gabriella - Hi, thanks for mentioning this! I wrote this article based solely on what I could find in the medical/sexual research published in reputable journals. Admittedly, this is a very under-studied area of female sexuality, and from what I could find none of the studies indicated that female ejaculation could be induced via clitoral stimulation alone.
If, in your experience, you can ejaculate without G-spot stimulation then the limited studies might very well be wrong. I would never deny someone’s first hand account of a sexual experience based just on what research has supported or not supported. Maybe you’d like to volunteer for the next study of female ejaculators to clear up this misconception?
It’s also possible that what you experience is not ejaculation from the urethra, but expulsion of vaginal secretions caused by the muscular spasms associated with orgasm. Just a thought.
What about everyone else? Can you ejaculate via clitoral stimulation alone?
Thanks so much for posting that response! I actually was wondering the same thing as Gabriella, because I’ve only ever ejaculated from clitoral stimulation and I don’t remember where I read it now (may have been that first reference book at the end–”Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot”, I have that but have only ever read bits of it as it tends to be a little scientific for me. I was always bad at science), but was fairly sure that it is possible, although usually less likely than the g-spot (although I’m thinking that is wrong now, because most other women I’ve talked to have ejaculated from only clitoral stimulation).
I’m fairly sure mine wasn’t the vaginal secretion either, because it felt very different physically when I ejaculated then when I get very, very wet…I don’t know, just my own experience there.
I loved the part too about whether a woman has a more powerful orgasm from it, and I have to say that I haven’t really found the orgasms to be anymore powerful than a really good “normal” orgasm…but maybe that’s just me. And maybe it’s because it has only been a clitorally stimulated ejaculation.
Thanks so much! I greatly appreciate you responding to my questions! And I wonder where you sign up for such studies? I’m a broke law student, I could use some extra cash!
I’ve been known to squirt from time to time but it’s only happened through g-spot stimulation. When it happens, though, it’s so much fun and it’s sooooo messy. My husband and I both love making it happen. It seems like playing with sex toys really makes me go off, and again only with g-spot stimulation.
Fun topic!
Rae - Hmm, you also squirt with clitoral stimulation alone? I’m starting to think the research is very wrong about this. Not that being wrong about something regarding female sexuality would be a first for male-dominated studies and theories. lol
Also, this type of research is few and far between - But I’ll let you know if one comes up that you could participate in.
Thanks again for sending in this great question!
Kitty - So you support the G-spot/Squirt link, at least from your own experience? It sounds like you and your hubby have found a nice way to incorporate it into your sex life. Good to hear!
A lot of women get very embarrassed over it - often thinking they’ve “peed” themselves. However, in general, men seem to be open to it, and some men get very turned on by it (as we know from the generous amount of squirting porn out there!).
Lucky you - married to a man who likes squirting AND sex toys! No wonder your blog is so sex positive.
Thank You All for being so candid in your responses to this topic! It’s becoming a very nice discussion.
I am similar to Gabriella and rae in that when I have an orgasm, clitoral or vaginal, The moment i am in orgasm, a different kind of fluid comes out of me. I have heard that when a woman experiences orgasm, she releases a small amount of fluid that may assist in pregnancy, could this be what is coming out of me and not necessarily female ejaculate?
My wife wishes she could squirt–her orgasms are intense, whether she cums from penile, toy, oral, clitoral, or G-spot stimulation. Any ideas out there as to “encouraging” female ejaculation?
I completely disagree that ejaculating is more intense. Anytime I have done it, its more of a let down. It happens quietly, and there are no accompanying aftershocks that come with my usual orgasms, and I feel like I could hop up and cook dinner or something. My girlfriend and I have taken to calling it “Coming the stupid way”.
Interestingly enough, my post this week is exactly about this topic. In order to ejaculate, which is different than just getting the usual vaginal secretion I need a combination of vaginal stimulation, a vibrator and pain. Some sort of pussy torture gets me there. A set of clover clamps on my labia worked quite well.
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I’m very glad this topic was discussed, mostly because you can’t readily find a lot of really helpful articles on the subject of female ejaculations. But I do find one flaw in your blog. Just based on personal experience, I’ve been known to ejaculate by both G-spot stimulation and clitoral stimulation.
Maybe it’s an oddity, but it still should have been brought up, seeing as I’m almost positive I’m not the only one that this happens to.
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