Is After-Sex Cuddling Necessary for Both Men and Women?

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Aaahhh, that blissful moment is finally here…The urgency of mating is over. The hectic panting, moaning, and fluid gyrating of your peaking lusts have past, and you’re both basking in the healthful glow of each other’s perspiration and internal concoctions of endorphin-induced euphoria. You sigh happily and roll onto your side, ready to scoop your lover up into a tender embrace, wanting to wrap your adoration and appreciation for them into one incredibly long kiss…

But as you reach out to cuddle their warm supple body against yours, instead of connecting with the delicious soft flesh you’re expecting, your hand hits the hard, cold, empty mattress beside you. Startled, you blink away the romantic fog from your eyes just in time to see your half-way-dressed lover kick the bathroom door closed behind them.

The loudness of the door’s thud whips you right back to reality. Your sexual buzz quickly disappears, and you’re left frowning and feeling utterly disgruntled with your apparently unemotional sex partner when you should be at the peak of relational contentment. How obnoxious.

The only bright side to this scenario (at least I suppose it’s a bright side) is that at one point or another, everyone has experienced that exact moment. Stereotypically the person left angrily lying on the bed has been the woman, but either that stereotype has always been wrong, or it’s in the process of changing. According to S.S.’s most recent poll results both men and women believe cuddling after sex is a very necessary and very important part of respectful sexual etiquette.

Is After-Sex Cuddling Necessary? YES!

Out of a whopping 47 respondents, 29 men and 10 women agreed cuddling after intercourse was a must, while only 5 men and 4 women said it was not. So not only are you S.S. readers a spankingly-kinky bunch, but you’re also lovingly cute with your after sex cuddles! Aaaaawww!

Do These Results Surprise You?

I’ll admit, they surprised me. I was expecting more women to say yes and more men to say no. In fact, I was expecting more people in general to say no, regardless of their sex. However in this case, I was very happy to be wrong! It seems cuddling is something almost everyone enjoys, including men – despite the amount of media hype trying to say otherwise. (I was sort of hoping for a fight on this issue, but since everyone here takes the time to enjoy their warm-fuzzies, I guess a big group hug will have to do…)

What About Those Non-Cuddlers Out There?

Just because you don’t think cuddling is a necessity doesn’t mean you’re heartless or cruel. Trust me, I was one of those four women who voted No! To me, and probably to most of you other non-cuddlers, snuggling after sex is nice sometimes, but just not every time. I don’t really feel shunned when my lover gets up right away, and I don’t think twice about moving right along with my day once sex has come to an explosive conclusion for both of us.

However, I do understand that for many people jumping up and putting my clothes back on without even a parting kiss would seem a bit harsh in a “Got what I needed from you so I’m leaving now!” kind of way. Because of this it’s very important for those of you non-cuddlers out there to remember to give your lovers the cuddle time they need to feel fulfilled. This is particularly true when you have a new lover who doesn’t yet understand your lack of affection does not mean you’re rejecting them, or worse, don’t love them.

And For the Statistic Geeks Out There – (Everyone Else Just Skip This Crap):

I performed a quick Sum 2 Var Proportion Test using Excel to equalize the proportion of men and women voters to see if there really was a significant difference between the cuddle/no-cuddle answers for men verses women. Turns out even at the strictest significance level of .01 (99%) the null hypotheses failed to be rejected. It seems both men and women are just as likely to be cuddlers according to this, admittedly small, sample! (This was also backed up using a confidence interval test as well! (-0.209 < p < 0.887) Cool, huh?)

Thank You My Sexy-licious Readers!

As always, enormous Thank You’s to everyone who took the time to vote in this poll! I’d stay for the cuddle-fest that’s sure to ensue after such a gushy display of gratitude, but I voted “No!” remember? As for the rest of you, enjoy the love!

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