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Would You Go to a Strip Club with Your Lover?
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Traditionally strip clubs have been the “dirty” local haunts of “sleazy” men who get a quick sexual fix by watching greased-up naked women gyrate their nether-regions against shiny, phallically-symbolic penis poles. From this perspective it’s no wonder why many women absolutely refuse to set foot in such an evil den of open misogyny.
However, in recent years many strip clubs have been diligently working toward cleaning up their abhorrent reputations by creating spaces that are sleek, classy, and sophisticated. Just like any other up scale late-night bar, these clubs cater to their client’s every need, and encourage couples to enjoy the club’s offerings together.
While this may not be every couple’s idea of a romantic evening out, for some open-minded and adventurous duos a few hours at a strip club can be a very erotic and very rewarding experience. Judging by the latest S.S. poll results, most of you lovely readers know exactly what I’m talking about. 
So before I get into why going to the right kind of strip club can be a blast, here are the official poll numbers:
Would You Go to a Strip Club with Your Lover?
MEN - Yes - 52%, No - 10%
WOMEN - Yes - 34%, No - 4%
Total YES - 86%!
Total NO - 14%!
That’s right, 86% of you said you would happily take your lover to a strip club, and only 14% said no way! Those are some very impressive numbers. Again you S.S. readers prove to be a very sexually provocative bunch. Good for you!
Top 3 Reasons to Take Your Lover for Some Stripping Fun
1. It’ll Make You Both Pantingly Horny - Of course this only works if both people are into these kinds of things. But if you’re lucky enough to be partnered to someone who enjoys watching beautiful naked women (and men) sensually lure their minds into the darker places of adult playfulness, then sit back and revel in the show.
Personally I love to watch other women flaunt their individual style of sexual confidence. Most strippers pick their own music, outfits, and choreograph their own routines, and I really appreciate their creativity. I think women are amazingly sensual creatures - especially when they understand how powerful sexual attraction is and have figured out how to manipulate it well. No, I’m not a lesbian - but some women make me think twice due to their overall appeal.
Not only should the club experience make you both incredibly aroused, it should make you feel closer to each other having shared such a “naughty” night out. The heady combination of naked women, relaxing atmosphere, and a few drinks should lead you straight to a very intense night with your beloved once you get home.
**Caution** - If you do not have a partner with high self-esteem, or you are not very communicative with each other, this date might lead to a lot of problems. For example he/she might think,
Clearly this person believes that if she goes to a club with her lover and they have sex afterward, he won’t “really” be having sex with her, he’ll be fantasizing about sex with the strippers instead. Does Anonymous have a point? Yes and no. Sure, the strippers might have been the ones who initially turned him on, and he might be thinking about them while having sex with you…But then again, what exactly are you doing? Wasn’t it the strippers who turned YOU on too? Aren’t you just as likely to fantasize about those ultra-masculine “hunks” (or women for that matter) while you’re having sex with your man?
On the other hand, neither of you might be thinking of the strippers at all. It’s just as likely that you’ll both feel extremely close to each other because of how much fun you’ve had together that evening. Knowing that you’re both in a very secure and exciting relationship will probably be enough to rekindle a lot of sparks between you - and the ensuing sex won’t have anything to do with the impersonal, delectable bodies you’ve seen parading around all night.
Furthermore, many people (men and women!) in long term relationships fantasize about other people during sex with their partners anyway - especially in “boring and routine” relationships. If your partner is going to think of other people while having sex with you, then he/she doesn’t need a strip club to prompt their fantasies - they’re already there.
2. It’s a Safe Way to “Play” With Others Without the Potential Emotional Consequences of a Threesome - Maybe one of you really wants to invite someone else into your bed, and the other one doesn’t. What if you’re the one who doesn’t but feels badly for “holding your partner back.” Well, why not compromise on getting him/her a lap dance or two?
The partner who wants to try other people will get the opportunity to explore this idea to some extent without doing anything “wrong.” Maybe having a stranger’s crotch in their face will be enough to suffice their sexual curiosity. Maybe it’ll dissuade them from wanting a threesome all together. Or maybe it’ll whet your own appetite for others. Who knows? The important thing is to experience it and then talk about how you felt and where you would like to go from there. If your parter still wants a threesome and you are even more set against it, then the club experience was a meaningful one.
Or it could turn out to be an exciting new experience for you both that you’d like to do again - and that might have been the needed thing all along (not the threesome, just the “newness”).
3. You Might Just Learn Something About Yourself or Your Partner - So you think you’re Mrs. Self Confidence, eh? Or you think your little mousy sex partner would never give you a lap dance in public, huh? Well guess what, after this date, you may have some rethinking to do! Both surprisingly good, and possibly bad thinking…
One of the major “problems” couples face when strip-clubbing together is how they each internally react to physically seeing the strippers. Many women look at the perfectly proportioned naked bodies and immediately feel intimidated because they don’t “look as good.” They grow worried that their lover’s will begin comparing their flawed physique to the stripping Goddesses’. Obviously this is bad for everyone involved. If she feels self-conscious then every second of attention her lover pays to the strippers will be resented, and she’ll grow irrationally angry at him. The longer you stay, the more irate she will become.
An evening that was supposed to be pure erotic nonsensical fun is now an argument waiting to happen. Unfortunately, this kind of sudden self-esteem plummet can happen to even the most seemingly confident women. If it does, just go home. It’s very important to remember that this has nothing to do with the man, and everything to do with the woman’s relationship with herself.
However, there are lots of surprisingly positive reactions that could happen as well! Things you’d never dreamed of might actually turn you on, your partner might be a lot more daring than you ever imagined, you might both go home with some new ideas to incorporate into your own sex life, and you might just meet some interesting people along the way.
Just Go!
Don’t let your personal fears and insecurities stop you from having new sexual experiences with your partner! That’s the quickest way to completely kill the sexual thrill of a relationship. I’m not saying you have to go to a strip club per se - you might have very valid moral reasons against them, which is fine.
But if you’re not going because you’re “scared” or “embarrassed” then you should certainly give it a shot! Have the “less embarrassed” partner briefly check out a few clubs until they find a nice one that you’d both enjoy going to. Then pick a night and have yourselves a crazy-wild time - TOGETHER. Because that’s the real point!
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speaksexy @ November 29, 2007
I danced in an upscale topless ‘gentleman’s club’ for three months when I was young.
Most men who came in with their significant others were turned on by the dancing, yes - but mostly to go home and passionately have sex with their partners because it was simply erotic voyeurism they experienced together.
Many times their girlfriends were into watching, as well. Maybe they wanted to learn how to do that at home for their guys…
And quite a few times, the guy would have his girlfriend/wife get a dance from one of us - while he watched.
It all depends on your perpective, and how your man treats you.
If the two of you do it as a mutual turn-on occasionally, a visit to a strip club can be both fun and arousing.
If the man is insensitive/selfish/thoughtless and hurts his girlfriend/wife’s feelings when he is looking at the dancers, or he forces his partner to go with him by putting her down by not being “open minded”, then this is more about him and his attitude than anything else. And that is when a visit to a strip club becomes a miserable and unwanted occasion.
By the way, dancers do NOT tend to have sex with anyone that comes into the Clubs. It is a generalized assumption that this happens, and largely a product of men’s fantasies ONLY.
Most of the dancers are already in existing relationships, and have no desire to do anything other than make money at the clubs.
The illusion that the dancers want the customers is based on us being/acting seductive - that’s how we got more dances and good tips..
So to be blunt, guys, the seduction stops at the dance floor. The real truth is that dancing is business only for the great majority of the dancers. And not a desire for monkey business…
Loving Annie - Thank You so much for that insightful comment. As a former dancer you obviously know what you are talking about so it makes me happy that your experiences reflect what I wrote.
I agree the man has the ability to make it a horrible experience for his wife/girlfriend depending on his attitude toward her and toward the dancers.
However, I think if a couple is loving and respectful with each other to begin with, the strip club experience is likely to be a fun and very exciting one.
PS - The lap dance idea sounds just yummy - wonderfully naughty and voyeuristic!
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ABSOLUTELY. My wife and I finally went to a strip club after being together for about seven years. It was something that I thought we would never do. We didn’t go to strip clubs by ourselves, and we hadn’t even talked about going together until a few weeks before we went. I was so excited, and I could tell that she was as well. We both had a great time. At one point she even walked over to another stage to watch a woman that she had been eyeballing. Seeing my wife enjoying watching other women was such a turn on. Hopefully we will go again, and maybe we can get a lap dance next time. By the way, we had some amazing sex that night. I would highly recommend going to a strip club with your lover if you are both comfortable with it.
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