“Control Yourself!” – How to Stop Ejaculating Too Soon

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One of the most easily remedied sexual problems men have is orgasming sooner than they, or their partners, would like – otherwise known as premature ejaculation. Unfortunately many men still believe this pesky mood killer can’t be avoided, so they let the problem persist and create negative relational and emotional consequences that are completely unnecessary.

Some of the more common causes for premature ejaculation include sudden and intense sexual arousal, not having sex for long periods of time, or being blessed with an incredibly sensitive penis (usually the head).

One S.S. reader was particularly concerned with his ultra-sensitivity, and asked:

What is the best thing to use to help premature ejaculation and an oversensitive head of the penis. I see myself having a problem with this. The head of my penis is really sensitive during sex and/or foreplay which makes me ejaculate easily and lose my hard on…I am not embarrassed by this…just a little frustrated. I would appreciate any advice you could give me.

~ Mr. Concerned, Oregon USA ~

Although the reasons vary from psychological to physical, all of them can be overcome with a few physical tricks – no need for you to keep thinking about un-sexy things during sex!

4 Ways to Easily Stop Yourself from Cumming Too Soon

• Masturbate More – I know it may sounds like an odd suggestion at first, but if you become aroused easily and don’t have any difficulty getting an erection, then this may be the only solution you need. By making yourself orgasm hours before you plan on having sex with your partner, you’ll decrease your physical excitement, decrease the sensitivity to your penis for a short while, and will probably be able to keep your next erection for longer than you did the first time (when you masturbated). Some men masturbate in the morning if they are likely to have sex that night. Think of it as “taking the edge off.”

• Practice Bringing Yourself Almost to Orgasm and Then Stopping, Repeatedly – This is like training your body to endure an intercourse marathon. Masturbate until you feel almost to that “point of no return” and then stop all stimulation completely and wait for your body to calm down again. If you don’t think this is possible, another technique is to hold the base of the penis firmly and squeeze with one hand while gently pulling your testicles downward (away from your body) with the other once you begin to feel that “Holy crap I’m going to cum!” sensation. After you’ve successfully backed away from your orgasm, continue with more stimulation until almost reaching orgasm again, and repeat the above process. Practiced regularly this should make you more aware of your own arousal and allow you more control over it during actual lovemaking.

• Use a Desensitizing Gel or Lube – In all honesty, most of the magic cream and gels out there are no more than regular lotion repackaged and sold for a lot more than they’re worth. However, there are a few that really do what they claim to do – desensitize your penis just enough to have satisfyingly long sex. The key to picking out the ones that work is to read the packaging and look for something called “benzocaine.” This is the active ingredient that will numb the surface nerves of your penis for about 10 and 30 minutes. Benzocaine is the exact same thing that makes other topical pain killers work, like Orajel for your gums. The only difference is the dosage.** Warning: Don’t use Orajel or any other product that has benzocaine in it on your penis instead of a product made for your penis just to be cheap! You don’t want to do anything that’ll permanently damage those glorious little penis nerves, do you?!** One product that actually does work is called Not Yet Gel. It contains 7.5% benzocaine and is perfectly safe to use. I’ve heard a lot of good things about Not Yet Gel, so this is probably your best bet.

• Use a Cock Ring – (I can hear the gasps now!) Seriously, try using a cock ring around the base of your penis once you are erect. Just like I told you to hold and press the base of your penis in the earlier masturbation exercise, cock rings do the work for you. Once you find one that fits correctly, not too snugly your penis turns purple but snug enough to keep the blood pretty constricted, these gizmos work quite well at prolonging sex. Sure, they may look a little strange at first, but once you’re heavily “involved” no one’s going to remember it’s even there…Unless you have one of those rings that comes with a nifty clit-vibe which brings together the best of both world in my opinion – The rings stops him from cumming too soon and the vibe encourages her to cum as many times as possible. Nice, huh?

If you try all of the above suggestions and none of them work, then ask your doctor about it. However they may say you don’t really have a premature ejaculation problem since the “normal” range of time between penetration and ejaculation begins at 1.5 minutes!

Good Luck and leave a comment if you have a tip that wasn’t mentioned here, or if any of these have worked for you in the past!

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